The Importance of Sexual Health

Sexuality is an integral part of being human. Love, affection, and sexual intimacy contribute to healthy relationships and individual well-being. But along with the positive aspects of our human sexuality, there also are illnesses that can affect our sexual health. In addition, irresponsible sexual behaviors can result in undesirable consequences, including unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.

An open discussion of sexuality issues is important for promoting sexual health and responsibility. More attention has been placed on sexual health since the World Health Organization (WHO) issued the following statement more than 25 years ago. WHO declared: “There exist fundamental rights for the individual, including …freedom from organic disorders, diseases, and deficiencies that interfere with sexual and reproductive function.”

However, challenges to achieving this vision remain. In many cases, the underlying causes of sexual disorders continue to be poorly understood, and, often, few treatment options are available. The unwillingness of individuals to discuss their sexual problems may be the greatest barrier to achieving the WHO’s vision of sexual health and to promoting responsible sexual behavior.

What is meant by “sexual health?”

Sexual health refers to the many factors that impact sexual function and reproduction. These include a variety of physical, mental, and emotional factors. Disorders that affect any of these factors can impact a person’s physical and emotional health, as well as his or her relationships and self-image.

What are the issues that affect sexual health?

Common sexual health disorders include:

  • Reproductive system disorders, including cancer
  • Infertility problems
  • Gynecologic problems, including endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease, and premenstrual syndrome
  • Urinary system problems, including incontinence and urinary tract infections
  • Sexually transmitted diseases
  • Sexual dysfunction, including erectile dysfunction (ED), painful intercourse, and loss of sexual desire

Other sexual health issues include:

  • Concerns regarding “normal” or acceptable sexual behavior and lifestyles
  • Birth control
  • Teen sex

FAQ

How does talking about sex help me with my sexual problems?

First, talking about sex with me helps you get more comfortable talking about sex with your partner. It is a way to practice what many think “should” be natural, but doesn’t feel quite that way. Many of my clients tell me that no one talked about sex in their families when they were growing up. Not talking about it can convey a message: sex is dirty. Second, you may have unrealistic ideas about sex or just plain misconceptions that you are not aware of. Through talking with me, these things can come to light. Think of it as very personalized sex education – where you can ask ANY question without fear of being judged.

I’m afraid of hurting my partner’s feelings if I express some of my sexual needs. Could you help me with this?

Many people shy away from speaking directly to their partners in order to keep from hurting their feelings. I can help you get very clear about what you are wanting and needing from your partner, and then help you practice saying it. And of course we will work together to choose your words carefully. Most people would prefer to know what works well for their partner and what doesn’t. Couples need to think of this type of communication as “learning each other” – they can’t just know what their partner wants without some input.

How can I determine whether my problem is physical or emotional?

With any sexual issue, I would recommend that you get a full physical to rule out physical causes. Don’t forget to ask if any medications that you are taking could be responsible for your drop in desire, or difficulty achieving orgasms. That said, there is ALWAYS some emotional piece to a sexual problem. Ignoring the emotional piece can waste time and energy that could have been spent remedying the problem.

What if I’m just not sure that your workshop, or groups or individual sessions are for me?

I would be happy to offer you a complimentary initial phone consultation. That way, you can get a sense of how I work, and feel more comfortable making an appointment .Wouldn’t you love to feel free of the guilt you are carrying around as you avoid sex? Wouldn’t you like to fully enjoy your lovemaking with your husband or wife or your partner ? This is what i do for my patients – I help them get to this point where sex is not “an issue” but is a natural and satisfying way of connecting to your partner